Says marriage ,not built on shame
Sometimes, silence feels like the safest place. For months, I held my peace. I watched people say things — hurtful, wicked, completely untrue things — about my marriage. About me. About my husband. They said I “snatched” someone’s husband. They said I broke a home. They said I betrayed a friend.
But let me speak my truth, for once. Not to defend, but to breathe.
I didn’t steal anybody’s husband. What people don’t understand is that there are stories behind every smile you see online. Stories behind every decision we make. Kazim (my husband) and I didn’t wake up one day and fall in love out of nowhere. It wasn’t drama, it wasn’t betrayal — it was life. It was years of shared values, understanding, support, and above all, a love that we both couldn’t deny.
Yes, he was married. And yes, it made everything complicated. But love isn’t always clean. It’s not always perfect. Do you know how many nights I cried in silence? How many days I questioned God? How many times I wanted to walk away just to make the noise stop?
But the truth remains the truth — I followed my heart. I chose peace. I chose someone who saw me for who I am, who supports my dreams, who doesn’t judge me by the image the world painted of me.
It hurts that people think I’m a villain in a story they know nothing about. But I’ve learned to let them talk. I’ve learned that the same people who throw stones today will be the ones clapping tomorrow when your happiness speaks louder than their hate.
This marriage — my marriage — is not built on shame. It’s built on friendship, respect, and deep, genuine love.
To those who understand, thank you. To those who don’t, I pray you never have to face the kind of judgment I’ve faced. I didn’t snatch anyone. I simply found a home where my soul could rest.
And that, to me, is worth everything.